Divorce is never an easy process, and it becomes even more challenging when it involves the well-being of our beloved pets. Divorce an emotional process and a lot of issues need to be discussed and sorted out, while it doesn't get as much attention as the larger topics (of course), pets have become family members and during a divorce it can get emotional over "who gets the pet/s"? Pet mediation, while not well known, is when a trained mediator acts a neutral 3rd party to help make decisions about the future of family pets with each spouse. These can be emotional waters when it comes to pet-related issues, but you aren't alone!
What is Pet Mediation?
In essence, pet mediation is a type of alternative dispute resolution designed to address conflicts involving pets during a divorce. A trained mediator will faciliate the conversation between the 2 spouses, helping them to communicate effectively to arrive at a decision that is mutually beneficial for both parties, and the pet/s.
The Benefits of Pet Mediation
The Best Interests of the Pet: Pet mediation priortized the best interests of the pet. Unlike traditional legal proceedings where the judge will decide, a mediator will help the parties focus on the pet's "well-being" as opposed to simply dividing up the property and assets.
Affordable Costs: Mediation is an alternative way to discuss divorce topics and "issues" that need to be worked out peacefully. With legal proceedings, the costs can sky rocket when pet issues are taken to court.
Reduces Conflict: Mediation provies a calm environment encouraging constructive communication when it comes to pet mediation. The goal is to reduce any additional conflict between the 2 parties.
Flexibility: Rather than taking a one-size-fits all approach that legal proceedings tend to provide, mediation provides flexibility in the negotiations to come up with create solutions tailored to each spouse and the pet.
Tips for Navigating Pet Mediation in a Divorce
Choose a Qualified Mediator: Find a mediator with experience and has an understanding of pet-related disputes and animal welfare.
Prepare for the Mediation: Veterinary records, pet expenses, and any documentation that demonstrates your commitment to the pet's well being is essential.
Be Open to Compromise: There must be compromise, enter the mediation with an open-mind and find a solution that works for both parties.
Keep Emotions in Check: Emotions can get tense during the mediation, remain calm and focused on the best interests of your pet.
Establish a Pet Parenting Plan: Mediation will help you both develop a "pet parenting plan" that will outline responsibilities and expectations of each party for caring for the pet. This will include visitation schedules, decision making authority, and financial responsibilities.
About A Fair Way Mediation
A Fair Way Mediation Center offers a relaxed, compassionate atmosphere in an informal setting that encourages a calm and objective approach. This is a safe space that avoids the stress and embarrassment that courtroom procedures can inject into any divorce or separation. All couples are welcome, including traditional or same sex families.
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