The answer is “yes”. Sometimes perspectives shift and people do change their minds about going through with divorce. If you can believe the news, celebrities do it frequently. Best known for multiple marriages, iconic couple Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton married and divorced twice. Space X CEO Elon Musk married actress Tallulah Riley in 2010, they divorced in 2012, then remarried in 2013, and divorced again the next year.
It’s not just celebrities who change their mind about divorce. We know of a non-celebrity couple who divorced and reconciled four times. Number four was the magic number and they stayed together after that. Most of us won’t need four times to make our decision. With the help of healthy discussions and careful guidance, couples who want to make it work, can and do stay together even after starting the divorce process.
We started a Divorce, but want to call it off, now what?
In California, a divorce takes at minimum, 6 months to be final. Service of the divorce paperwork starts the six-month period. Anytime during the six months, one or both spouses can call it off. The purpose of that time frame is actually to give the couple time to change their minds and reconcile, and thus avoid a long, costly court process. That’s the beauty of the California law---it can save a marriage and save money.
Mediation works in perfect Synergy with California Requirements
If you were in the process of divorce and now you both want to call it off, to officially stop the divorce without waiting for the court, you will need to file a “request for dismissal”. There may be one or more issues you want to resolve first. Couples who feel their marriage has problems, but don’t know how to fix them, may file for divorce because they think they have no other options. But often there are options, and this is where a professional mediator can help. A mediator acts an unbiased third party who listens to the issues and leads you through a process to help resolve the issues and come to an agreement both spouses can support. The mediation process can help couples to reconcile completely. Mediation helps to work through the issues, understand each other better, and learn to resolve any future issues in a more positive manner. For those with children, the skills learned in mediation often help to make you a better parent as well.
Ready to work it out? Start mediation now. A Fair Way Mediation helps couples realize the value of mediation as a non-confrontational way to approach partnership decisions. Now with offices in Coachella Valley, A Fair Way Mediation will help you work through the issues and come to a fair and equitable solution. With your input, our experienced mediators will lead you through a thoughtful and open process. We put your needs first as we all work together.
Mediation is a valuable tool in our current pandemic situation. All that A Fair Way Mediation offers is available without leaving your home. Stay safe and achieve successful sessions with Zoom, Skype and video chat. Complete our online request for a free online evaluation. In California, you may receive a free 30-minute consultation at www.afairway.com or call 760-227-5090 (Coachella Valley) or 619-702-9174 (San Diego).
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