Maybe you just want to work on a few issues to improve your marriage, or maybe you and your spouse have decided to go ahead with a divorce. You’ve done your research and you’ve made up your mind that mediation is the right way to work things out, but your spouse does not agree. We have a few suggestions to help you convince your spouse of the benefits of mediation.
Focus on the Values of Mediation
Your goal is to convince your spouse of the value of mediation. Put the focus on how it will benefit the entire family. Consult the experts and be sure you know the facts to support your reasons for choosing mediation. A professional mediator is a good source of information.
Choose a time when both of you are relaxed and not involved in any conflicts. Even if there has been conflict in the past, both spouses must respect what the other is feeling. Then, focus on the major benefits of mediation.
Saves Time
Mediation opens the way for couples to have positive discussions that are mutually beneficial. It brings an easier and quicker resolution to the issues. Mediation generally lasts only a few hours over a few days. Court cases may go on for months, even years.
Respectful of All
Through mediation couples make decisions together for the good of the family. They have the control over important decisions such as parenting, and are able to avoid lengthy and often contentious court procedures in which others make the decisions. Mediation respects your wishes and privacy.
Affordable
Attorney and court fees run into the thousands even hundreds of thousands. Mediators often charge a flat fee or hourly rate. Although less expensive than traditional attorney fees, mediation of a Marital Dissolution or Domestic Partnership may often have hourly rates of a few hundred dollars and may take only a few days. To save time and bring ease to decision making, couples are encouraged to come to the meetings prepared. They are asked to bring financial documents, property information, and a list of questions, concerns and objectives which will be mediated in a caring and non-confrontational atmosphere.
For years, A Fair Way Mediation has helped couples realize the value of a non-confrontational divorce process. Mediation works for the good of all members of the family. Let us help. Complete our online request for a free online evaluation, or to receive a free 30-minute consultation visit us a www.afairway.com or call 760-227-5090 / 619-702-9174.
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